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They Said About Me – Eszter Nagy, writer

2024.09.09.

I'm curious about how people perceive our conversations. I'm interested in what they take away from them. So, I started asking for feedback from those whom life has brought together with me, to share what has stayed with them from the time we've spent together.

I met Eszter towards the end of 2021. She is an inspiring, humorous, and sparkling person, who is capable of presenting the challenges, failures, pains, and, of course, joys of her everyday life to her readers with incredible honesty. When we met, her first book had already been published, and she was working on the second edition.

Our conversations unfolded with the same ease and honesty as her books guide the reader from page to page. Our encounter certainly earned its own chapter in our lives.

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There are important encounters in a person's life. These are usually brought to us by a “fortunate coincidence,” which I've been calling fate or karma for some time now.

“The meaning of karma: cause and effect, more precisely the relationship and interaction between cause and effect; the law of the consequences of actions." (Wikipedia)

These kinds of encounters change something within you. It might not happen at the exact moment, but rather things fall into place afterward. As I write these lines, I recall many long, endless conversations. They were personal, deep, important! What made them special for me was the attention! The attentive listening I received! The questions, which prompted me to say certain things! Even again and again! Because sometimes, you just need to hear from your own mouth how much you don’t believe in yourself!

Back then, I was scared of the fact that a “stranger” saw me better than I could see myself, and I simply ran away. Zero awareness, more of a self-defense instinct... or immaturity, perhaps a lack of confidence. Or maybe all of them. The point is, something pushed a red button inside me at that time. At first, it only rolled down a few stones. These were still painful realizations about myself. But then the avalanche started, and it bulldozed the wall I had been carefully building around myself for years.

Thanks, I’m doing well! I’m grateful to fate for bringing you into my life at just the right time! I’m glad I know you!

Because there are no coincidences!

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The article was translated from Hungarian to English by ChatGPT. Thank you, ChatGPT, for being here.

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