Mentoring on YouTube. Would you be up for it?
2025.04.06.
Am I the kind of man, the kind of woman I can be proud of? Am I the kind of father, mother, partner, colleague I’d admire? Would my parents, my children, my friends be proud of me? And if not – would they still love me?
Is this the kind of person I wanted to become? What kind of person do I want to be?
In recent months, I’ve been hearing these questions more and more – from myself, and from others, too. Maybe because there are more of us now who’ve left something behind – or are right in the middle of it, or about to start: a career, a relationship, an old version of ourselves. And now we’re standing on the threshold of a “new beginning,” with a few ideas in our hands and a mess of questions in our heads.
It feels good to talk about these things. To hear how others experience them, how they cope – if they cope. Xab Eisenbacher is a phenomenon. We’d only known each other in passing before – maybe met two or three times.
A few weeks ago, he messaged me saying he’d like to have a conversation, that he has questions he wants to see more clearly. XaB was actually one of the very first – maybe the first – who sat down with me under the "Pay or Share" business model. I only intended to record audio to help fine-tune Vendler AI. But he brought his own mobile studio and simply turned on the camera in a café in Pécs.
The conversation took a bit of time to find its rhythm, but after half an hour something opened up – and by the end, it turned into a relaxed, honest exchange that wasn't about “how to make money,” but about how to live our own life. And what the cost is if we don’t.
So: two guys, roughly the same age, on two very different paths. But asking the same question: how do you find the road that is truly yours? The kind of work you don’t just do, but live and enjoy. The kind of life that has space for joy, play, calling, and money. That feeling of being at home with yourself – not inherited from the past, but shaped from within, moving outward.
We talked about redefining yourself when all your old anchors – your job title, your company, your marriage – fall away. What’s left then? Can you even say who you are? Or maybe it’s easier to say: who is the person you want to become?
And we also touched on how hard it is to start a business journey when you don’t yet have a clear picture of the destination. When all you know is that you want something else – but not yet what exactly. What if desire comes before structure? What if you’re doing something without knowing exactly what it is – just that you love being in it? And that uncertainty shakes you. But maybe… maybe that’s natural, too.
We talked about fears. About that kind of uncertainty that tugs at both your bank account and your chest. The tension between craving security and chasing a dream. And the cost of this kind of freedom.
It was a good talk. Thank you, XaB, for recording it. And thank you for being open enough to share it. The video is up on XaB’s YouTube channel – click here to watch it.
And if you’d like to have a chat like this, let’s go! We can walk in the woods, meet in a café, or talk online. Click here for details.
But if it still feels too soon to talk to me directly, try Vendler AI. It’s still free.
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The article was translated from Hungarian to English by ChatGPT. Thank you, ChatGPT, for being here.
